Hi there, I wanted to share this story about my boyfriend and me (he’s paraplegic, I’m AB) which I posted on my blog a few days ago. Since writing this he and I have both had people reach out to us: him a recently injured paraplegic looking for some advice, and me a girl also dating a para guy who wanted to tell me how happy my post made her. She and I have struck up a new friendship, and I cant help but be reminded of how proud I am of us and this little project we’ve put together, all for the sake of showing the world at large that couples like us are beautiful and capable of so very much.
My friends all lied to me in order to ditch me on a Disney trip (we all hold season passes). I found out about it and confronted them all individually:
“We wanted to run through all the rides, so we didn’t want you to feel rushed”
“You said last time you didn’t like using a chair, so I just figured you wouldn’t want to again, and didn’t bother to ask.”
“We didn’t want to be slowed down, it’s no big deal, we’ll go again on a day when time isn’t an issue”
“I know your money is tight, and I didn’t want you to feel like you had to rent a motorized chair just to keep up with us.”
FWIW; the day in question the park was open for 24 strait hours, and nearly empty overnight (when they went). so despite the fact that I can keep up when using my wheels, and am always willing to make whatever time, energy or money concessions are necessary to hang out with our group, they aren’t willing to WALK SLOWER for me.
[“Being in a wheelchair makes me feel utterly invisible to anyone I might be remotely attracted to. That is all.”]
[“I’m really tired of anxiety advice that focuses on breathing. I know how to breathe. I’ve pretty much been doing it my whole life.]